Fickle Friends

We all have or had people in our life over the years who are incapable of friendship. However, there might be something else that we did not realize rely on these friendships. ‘Fickle friends’ or 'frenemies' is associated with a complicated situations which is regarding ambivalent friends that occur in human being relationships. All of human being do experiences this kind of troublesome relationships with their ambivalent friends or known as “frenemies” which can be describe as a friend and at the same time is an enemy. For example, the well-meaning friend w ‘ho is overly competitive or the pal who is a pillar of support when times are tough but cannot quite takes pleasure in your successes.

Based on the article, the author do mentioned that blood pressure was more elevated in the presence of ambivalent friends than it was with people the subjects disliked. Researchers found that merely being in the presence of such a friend tended to elevate study peoples' heart rate and generally put them ‘on edge.’ Moreover, discussing a negative event with an ambivalent friend tended to send up people's blood pressure. This is because, we don’t expect much from someone we detest whereas frenemies, whilst unreliable, tend to promise more than they deliver. And that let down can adversely affect our health. Secondly, the more ambivalent friends a person had, the higher his or her heart rate and blood pressure were. Ambivalent friends are the types who leave us uncertain about whether they'll offer support or indifference, understanding or criticism. These mixed emotions may make it difficult to relax around such a friend. It’s obviously hard to find comfort from him or her when something goes wrong, the new study suggests.

But most people make a decision to keep their frenemies. The reasons why people still keeps relying on complicated relationships is because the relationship has a long history, because the good in the relationship outweighs the bad or because and for whatever reason, they just do not want to give up on the person. It is well accepted that we will not easily left our frenemies because of all the reasons stated above and that is why you need to know how to manage the relationships in order to minimize the pain they produce. Try out some simple strategies by avoiding previously problematic subjects or situations and at the same time give your frenemy’s motives a positive or at least neutral spin. It all rely on your own self in dealing with the situations by starting with controlling your own behavior and being the kind of friend you’d want others to be.